Avoiding Relapse on New Year’s Eve

For some people, complete avoidance is the best option. This may be best for you if your sobriety is shaky. If you have just finished treatment, if you know there will be a lot of major triggers at events and social gatherings, or if you just want to be as safe as possible, stay home and avoid parties. Make sure there is no alcohol in the house and make plans to do something relaxing that you enjoy. Prepare a nice meal, pick out your favorite movies, or just hunker down with a book.

Another avoidance tactic is to take a vacation. Get out of town for a change of scenery. Changing your environment is a powerful way to avoid relapse. Addictive behaviors are often tied to a learned environment. What this means is that the physical locations where you used to drink have conditioned your brain. You have learned that being in those places is tied to the habit of drinking. Elements of the physical environment can trigger you to drink again. Changing the scenery by going somewhere new will make it much easier to avoid cravings or giving in to them.

Maybe you’re fine with not celebrating the New Year in a traditional way, but maybe you really would like to take part. If you’re not sure you can safely attend a party with alcohol all around, look for a sober event. Sober parties are increasingly popular, and if you live in a city of a reasonable size, you should be able to find one. Check with your treatment center for advice, local community centers and sober organizations, 12-step programs in the area, and online support groups.

If you do plan to go to a party where you know people will be drinking, a little bit of advance planning can take away some of the risk. Know your limits, though. If you just don’t feel as if you can resist cravings to drink, take yourself out of the situation. Avoid the parties or go home early.

• Prepare and practice coping strategies. Research has shown that using coping mechanisms is a major factor in avoiding relapse. Practice your best coping skills ahead of the party and be prepared to step away for a few minutes during the party to use them. Examples of good coping strategies include deep breathing, positive imagery, and meditation.
• Attend with a sober friend. Don’t try to go this alone. Avoiding relapse is always easier when you have the support of at least one person you know and trust. Commit to each other to avoid all drinking at the event and hold each other accountable.
• Practice saying no. You may be pressured by partiers to partake in the drinking. Even when people know you are trying to be sober, their own drinking may lead them to make bad choices and pressure you in ways that aren’t fair. Rehearse how you’ll say no to people who offer you alcohol.
• Always have a safe drink in hand. While at the party, you’ll be less likely to experience pushy people if you have a drink in your hand. Keep a soda or sparkling water on hand throughout the event. If you are unsure what will be available, bring your own beverages.
• Bring games. It’s easier to avoid drinking and to respond appropriately to cravings if you are distracted. Parties at which everyone is drinking and talking, with no other activities, are particularly risky. Bring a few fun party games to get people involved in doing something other than drinking.
• Have an escape plan. Be ready with a plan for leaving any situation that makes you uncomfortable or that threatens your sobriety to a degree you can no longer handle. Have a friend or family member willing to pick you up, or use a rideshare app if you are attending a party with someone who doesn’t want to leave early. Know what you will say when you need to leave or be prepared to simply walk out without saying anything. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your decision.